
During my infertility, all I could do was watch months turn into years with no hint of a positive pregnancy test. I started feeling like a failure. It was devastating to know that the thing I longed for most in this world was not within my power to create. No amount of will, desire, or action was going to change the outcome.
I spent so many years focusing on what I couldn’t create that I lost sight of what I could. Since making the decision to embrace a childfree life, I’ve worked to identify and celebrate what I create in my life and the world. To see myself as the powerful source of creation I am. Here are a few of them.
- I create loving, compassionate relationships.
- I create a better world for children through the policy change I work toward at my job.
- I create a healthier earth by respecting the planet and being conscious about the resources I consume.
- I create music when I play my ukulele, sing or write music.
- I create space for magic and play in my life.
- I create nourishing food and a connection to the earth when I garden.
- I create an understanding, supportive space for people to connect through my blog and social media accounts.
- I create kindness by treating those I meet with respect and courtesy.
- I create beautiful surroundings when I take on remodeling projects at home.
- I create a better world by donating my money and time to causes I care about.
- I create self-love by taking care of my mind, body and soul.
- I create compassion by opening my heart to myself and others.
If you need another reminder of how powerful you are, check out my post, “I’m not a mom, but…“
- I create laughter by making those around me laugh and seeking out humor.
- I create a more just society by voting and using my voice for social activism.
- I create a vision for my future by developing and moving toward goals.
- I create happiness by focusing on the positive aspects of life.
- I create a healthier future for myself by letting go of the past.
- I create authenticity by following my inner voice instead of trying to fulfill others expectations of me.
- I create health and joy by cooking delicious, healthy meals.
- I create courage by letting go of fear.
- I create peace by practicing forgiveness.
- I create knowledge through reading.
- I create resiliency by accepting and adapting to the shit life throws at me.
- I create meaning in life by defining and following my dreams.
- I create a new future by letting go of regrets.
- I create self-acceptance by loving myself, flaws and all.
- I create a connection to the world through travel.
- I create confidence by gaining new skills and recognizing my achievements.
- I create empathetic space for others who need a listening ear.
- I create awareness by sharing my experience with endometriosis and infertility.
- I create my own truth by questioning the beliefs and ideas of others.
- I create deeper connections with myself and others by living in the moment.
- I create meaningful conversations by listening and being open.
- I create memories by taking photos of the people and places that are meaningful to me.
- I create a life I’m in love with.
You are also a powerful source of creation. What are you creating in your life and in the world?
10 comments
This is beautiful. Thank you 😊 I needed to see this right now. I too will start my own list.
Thanks for the support!
This is the most beautiful, positive, optimistic, and hopeful blog-post I have ever read. And to add to your list above, you also just created some happiness, healing and relief for a very grateful reader: me!
Julie, you are too sweet. I’m so happy to hear that this resonated with you. Thanks for taking the time to let me know.
Thanks for sharing your story. You’re a beautiful writer!
This is an incredibly positive and inspiring creation list. Thank you. I’ll start one of my own.
[Childless-by-circumstance female]
Thanks! I have no doubt you are creating amazing things as well!
This is beautiful! So many ways to create in this world that are beyond creating a child. Thank for the many reminders you listed.
Yes, you are a powerful source of creation! I so appreciate your strength, intelligence, kindness, and generosity. Thank you!
Thanks, Debby! So sweet of you to say!